QUITTING TALKS DOES NOTHING TO SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS

Creating a lot of drama does not help much either.

Sis should follow a daily routine that keeps her anxiety under control, because victims fear mostly everything in the beginning of recovery.

She has only recently learned how to keep herself in food and cigarettes; without resorting to drinking to face the dread of it.

Your recent attempts to get her to face the hair dresser alone, naturally left her feeling anxious and drinking to handle the fear of doing it.

Getting mad at her for drinking to accomplish it, naturally led her to drink worse from having to deal with your anger about how she dealt with it.

If you want to get her to do things, then make sure they are not things that leave her feeling anxious.

She will slowly regain her abilities to face more with less anxiety and drinking, if she is not constantly driven to do things that leave her drinking worse to accomplish them.

Your plans to get her to face an upcoming week without alcohol have left her exceedingly anxious, and drinking more lethally to deal with it.

This lethal anxiety and drinking that is resulting from this planned detox could kill her before it occurs. So, reminders follow here.

“Tell your loved ones that your cocktails cannot be suddenly taken away, because withdrawal must be clinically supervised; as overwhelming numbers die from drastic developments during this detox process.

Given, medical clinics are ill equipped to help many survive this deadly withdrawal; suddenly taking away these cocktails without this medical assistance is proving more fatal than good.

Responding Survivors believe it helps to talk about your issues, and suggest that those developing harmful habits from stressful occurrences:

• Understand that group support helps those battling similar despair,

when few continue to care about their survival;”

Few continue to help Sis overcome her addiction, because she snaps at them instead of thanking them for their help; as she is not at the point where she cares about her survival.

She hardly understands that they are in the battle with her, and just as afraid of not being able to defeat this problem.

If she survives this lethal anxiety and drinking that is resulting from this planned detox, then:

• She may appear extremely hungover for it’s duration, as withdrawal symptoms are often mistaken as such; and need sudden hospitalization to survive drastic developments from it.

She is just learning how to recognize so called “painful storms” that can lead to rock bottoms. Recently, she experienced three sudden painful losses that naturally led to one.

Thankfully, she survived this sudden storm and is more experienced at recognizing their approach. But, she will likely have to suffer more of these rock bottoms; before she learns how to avoid them.

She understands that seeing a psychologist could help everyone concerned, but leaving her anxious about having to face one will likely cause more of this lethal drinking to deal with it.

Since these Survivors also believe it helps to save time for serenity, because of the turmoil that usually comes with stressful circumstances; they try to keep the following routine:

• Spend roughly 6 hours per day on each thing listed below (except for 2 days a week to do as they wish):
  • Sleep;
  • Feed and entertain yourself (i.e. tackle your bucket list);
    • In Sis’s case this would include regaining her enjoyment to ride;
  • Work on the jobs you must get done (so called your pile of crap);
    • In Sis’s case this would include finishing income taxes, replacing her reading glasses, and finding babysitting for her pet;
  • Work at taking care of your health and ones that support you;
    • In Sis’s case this would include cleaning her house from pet hairs.

So, now you may understand why these survivors try to keep talks going; and control the drama around people’s survival.